Lovebirds and Passwords
With the purpose of building network and communicating each other from diverse backgrounds and other business opportunities, social media has been widely used. In our country, Myanmar, if we say “social media”, Facebook is the common and popular among all layers of people. The old, the young and even the children have used the Facebook as a daily basis rather than as a source of seeking information and pleasure in the spare time.
Although the Facebook could bring the advantages and happiness for those who have supposed to use it effectively, there have been social bitches for the ones who could not manage to be active. More recently, sharing passwords among the couples has been one of the trends. Assuming that this could turn out to be much more sophisticated to ourselves, our job-related people and other associated ones physically and emotionally, it needs to consider how to tackle it softly without suspecting of many splendored thing, so called love. Despite accepting that being attached between youths is the natural process, having us put with the misleading concept about relationship seem designating themselves with the physical and emotional impacts. For example, whether intentionally or not, the social norm that if someone falls in love with other, passwords must be shared is unacceptable. Likewise youths, no sooner do teenagers are in relationship on Facebook than they have been demanding passwords without taking into account of the long-term processes. We should put our beliefs, affection and loyalty on our hearts, head and how we particularly behave, plus fill in the social emotional blanks rather than we build confidence on alphabets and numbers. With insecurities, including me, almost all love-birds just feel entirely secure about watching the messenger of the related person and checking what has been told. Perhaps we feel ourselves tough or kind otherwise, even jealous of. So, we should not hurt our mental health via using social media as well as it needs to think not to be the biggest threat to our daily lives. Thus, I would like to point out that sharing privacy, in other words, sharing passwords is another kind of striking our inner peace and welcoming worthlessly unneeded social problems. Besides, what and how has been chatted between the beloved and friendly ones has become a barrier. As a result, the dude or girl who has been watched feel over-controlled and on the other hand, the related girl or boy become weary under doubted condition. These are the whys and wherefores of becoming disturbing our innermost thoughts, feelings and desires and so there comes to be weak in valuing privacy, along with respecting each other. Although this does not matter for some love-hate relationships and it could bring some advantages such as being much more beliefs and understandings than before, most of them have recently been apart until the marriage condition comes. Consequently, in our country, Myanmar, influenced by hearsay and conservative views, this might attack girls or women. Therefore, to my opinion, trying not to bring unnecessary social norms to the world, I have just realized that it needs to build the mentally supportive community for all layers of youths. Moreover, everyone has his or her dark side and not everyone wants to show even the family members or familiar ones. We all should understand these. We should firstly think so as not to demand passwords rather than an argument in asking for that. Highlighting the quote from Google “Social media is about sociology and psychology more than technology.”, we need promoting ourselves to impact our personality, directions, emotions and we should be aware of uploading what would be a reflection of our lives before deciding whether or not to share our privacy to the lovers or the siblings by heart, not by blood. Lastly, sharing the quote by Susan Cooper, “Engage, Enlighten, Encourage and especially … just be yourself! Social media is a community effort, everyone is an asset.”, on social media, especially, on Facebook, it should be just to build an empowered society which could provide alleviating victim blaming and its effects, respecting each privacy, identity and rights.
Summing up, different people have different ideas of defining love and using social media. In this technological world, it is the ongoing process that love-hate relationships have been created through communication tools. Therefore, in consideration of asking for personal information, the truth and measuring how much love could be shared each other, we should reflect some effective and useful ways, sharing the passwords of social media accounts instead.